Dear Lisa Ann: Does size really matter, a cheating husband wants forgiveness and stories from Lisa Ann’s past

Former No. 1 Adult Film Star Lisa Ann has been putting the “fantasy” in SiriusXM’s Fantasy Sports Radio every Monday night at 10 pm ET for awhile now, but she also knows a thing or two about real life. Each week, she’ll be answering your burning questions about sex, relationships and her personal life. This time around, she’s tackling: The difference between Facebook friends vs. real friends, managing her Psoriasis, and the after effects of a career in the adult film industry.

Good afternoon Lisa,

First off, I want to say that doing this and opening up to your fans is quite admirable and it makes everyone like you that much more!!! A quality I wish more people with your elite status had. I was wondering, from your previous life, what would you say was your favorite and most exhilarating experience and why? I am sure you get asked a ton of ridiculous questions or have had to answer this same one over and over!!

Much appreciation to you for even looking at this! You will always be beyond sexy and are the standard to what others in the industry strive for!

– Your fan from Canada

Dear Canada,

This is a really fun question to answer! It allows me to stroll down memory lane and go through my career highlights. I would have to say one of my favorite and continuously exhilarating experiences in my previous life was traveling the world. I was thrilled by getting stamps in my passport. I labeled it #PornPassport in my book, to share all of the amazing places I was able to visit. It includes, Finland, Italy, Greece, France, Australia, Germany, Spain, England, Hungary, the Netherlands and Canada. What I saw, learned and experienced on those trips I will have with me through my life and I have a great sense of pride in all that travel. The excitement of it all has kept me inspired and fulfilled. Top it all off with the thrill of being in Eminem’s Music Video for the song We Made You, and I feel pretty complete and grateful for the experiences of my previous life.

– Lisa Ann

Dear Lisa Ann,

I am not very well endowed. My girlfriend hasn’t complained, but should I be worried?

– Tiny Tim

Dear Tiny Tim,

Let me drop this bomb on you. Guys are way more worried about size than women will ever be. The emphasis placed on size is only in your head, not hers. Your girlfriend, like most women, cares about you, how you treat her and what your life together is like. Sex to us is a bonus not the priority. The best sex can come naturally with the best relationship. Keep doing what you are doing and make your focus about her pleasure, and not you or your size.

– Lisa Ann

Dear Lisa Ann,

I’ve been married 11 years with two great kids (four and eight). I’d like to think I’m a good Dad, but to say I’ve been a good husband would be disingenuous. To be perfectly honest, I carried on with extra-marital affairs for the first five years of our marriage, and like all serial-cheaters I was eventually discovered.  After some fairly useless marriage counseling (at least in my opinion) my wife decided not to divorce me … which I know had more to do with the kids than it did with her desire to stay with me. In the past six years I’ve done my best to show how regretful and sorry I am, but she still has a huge chip on her shoulder (understandably) and I feel that it’s preventing us from moving on. I’m not saying I deserve her full forgiveness and we should carry on the rest of our lives as if nothing happened, that’s unrealistic. But I also don’t think it’s healthy for her to bring up my past transgressions over almost every disagreement/argument we have (i.e. “you forgot to take out the trash … because you’re an unfaithful asshole!”).  And honestly, all that does it make me less remorseful about the past. I guess what I’m asking you is, what else can I do to quell her pain so we can possibly have a happy ending here … or is this just going to be an uphill battle for the rest of our lives or until one of us finally breaks and files for divorce.

Sincerely,

Flawed Husband

Dear Flawed Husband,

There are a couple things I am hearing right now that I think I can help you find clarity on. First, let me start by saying the tone of resistance for marriage counseling clarifies your denial in having a resolution in the marriage. Though you may not have felt the counseling would be or was helpful, your willingness was what was important. As much for you as for your wife and your family. The benefit of good counseling is taking the time to be open about your feelings and then learning to let things go. Instead of resisting, you should have been willing to do absolutely anything at that time to follow through with getting the advice you both needed to be able to continue through life together. The key to rebuilding the trust is compromise. I believe had you compromised a bit more during the time you were going to counseling you both would have had the proper time to heal and forgive. I suggest you try again, find another counselor and talk about where you are now and what you would like to see and not see in your future. If you have been faithful since you were discovered, than you have taken step one. People don’t always forgive us in the time frame we prefer, these things take time. I also suggest making an effort to show your wife you love her and you are grateful for the family that you have. Small things get big results. Instead of waiting until she is saying nasty things while you take out the trash, take the trash out before she notices. It is all about self-preservation at this point. The less negative things you hear from her about your past, the more of a positive outlook you will be able to have for the future. I suggest you show your love for her so much that over time there is more good than bad, allowing her to forgive and forget. Don’t forget the kids and all she does for them. Help her, help them. Do more and tell everyone in your home you love them every day. It is up to you to ensure your past stays where it is, in the past. It is also up to you to go out of your way as much as possible to make up for that past. Anything is possible with love; just say that as your mantra while you navigate your way back to a happy home life.

– Lisa Ann

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