Dear Lisa Ann: Sending nudes, daily fantasy sports, how porn affected my life

Former No. 1 Adult Film Star Lisa Ann has been putting the “fantasy” in SiriusXM’s Fantasy Sports Radio every Monday night at 10 pm ET for awhile now, but she also knows a thing or two about real life. Each week, she’ll be answering your burning questions about sex, relationships and her personal life. This time around, she’s tackling: The difference between Facebook friends vs. real friends, managing her Psoriasis, and the after effects of a career in the adult film industry.

Dear Lisa Ann,

What would you do if a dude you, are talking too. He have already sent you a nude picture of he’s penis to you ????

I need your advice Lisa Ann

— TMI

Dear TMI,

I say TMI because I believe if you’re talking to anyone that you have not interacted with on any sexual level, sending a penis pic is just flat out too much information. What happened to leaving something to the imagination? Speaking for myself, it is a total turn off and I don’t engage with guys who automatically start sending me nude pics. I also don’t want or need the added pressure that they will expect the same in return. We are all different on what we want in life and future relationships, but women like me would like to search for a man with more class and style than a man who automatically thinks it is appropriate to text unwarranted nude pictures. That guy ends up being the same guy with no class, style or manners. This type of guy will be demanding sex in the relationship way before you are comfortable with him. Be patient girl, there are still some great guys out there who know better, and you just have to find them! Good luck to you and good riddance to him!

— Lisa Ann

Dear Lisa Ann,

Not sure if you have previously been asked or talked about this but, what is your opinion on legal gambling as it concerns daily fantasy sports?

— DFS Novice

Dear DFS Novice,

Well this is an exciting question especially going into week 3 in the NFL regular season! The two topics are totally different and the lawmakers have done a great job at creating regulations to keep the distance between the two. Daily Fantasy Sports are games of skill, which makes them the polar opposite from gambling. Over the past year I’ve closely followed the different regulations all over the United States. It’s been very interesting to follow and I think what has been done so far has been a great way to protect the consumer. The daily fantasy sites have improved so much this year by offering beginner contests and single entry games. I have to say, I love season-long leagues, but daily fantasy sports are so fun because you can put your mind to the test on a daily basis. It’s a challenge I’m up for and I really enjoy it. If you’re lucky enough to be in a state that has finished setting the standard in how the sites can operate, I suggest you play and you’ll see it has nothing to do with gambling. It’s more about you learning the player pool, the systems, the matchups and even the weather at the games. Have some fun with it and play a matchup, you can even challenge your friends for free and play them in a weekend matchup. It is so fun! I run a free challenge every week for my Monday night show on SiriusXM Fantasy Sports Radio, I tweet the link and would love to get you in the challenge!

— Lisa Ann

Dear Lisa Ann,

How much did porn effect your life?

— Just Wondering

Dear Just Wondering,

Well, this is a question I really feel compelled to answer. When I initially got into the business, everyone told me that getting into porn would ruin my life. I had no idea what they were talking about at the time because I was having fun, traveling around the world and making good money. Now I feel the aftermath. It is harsher than anything they or I could’ve ever imagined. I’d say the one clear sense that I feel in every step I take is the fact that there is some confusion from the world over who I am and what I’m really about. I explain it like a professional basketball player, no one ever pictures them doing anything other than playing basketball, but in my case it’s sex. Everyone thinks they should be able to have sex with me. I get thousands of tweets and emails a day from people asking to have sex with me. It even happens in face-to-face situations. There is no regard for me as a person or as a woman, it’s all about sex. I never thought people would be so confused, I performed movies for a living with other professionals doing movies and I liked having sex with them, because I chose them. I chose whom I worked with and when I worked with them. Now, in my new life outside of the industry, I’m pretty much just harassed for sex non-stop. I can only assume the doubters in my life may have had this in mind when they first warned me about getting into porn. It hasn’t ruined my life, so they are wrong there, but there is no doubt it has ruined my existence. I’m unable to move freely in the world. I can’t go out to eat, go anywhere in public or even turn on my computer with out having to brace myself for someone demanding sex from me. It’s weird, it’s awkward and in my eyes it’s shameful. Nothing is less attractive to a woman than a man telling her she should have sex with him. Now add that fact to the fact that 95% of the people that talk to me, whether it’s online or in person, only want that one thing from me and can be very demanding causing me to live in a very strange fear. Even this email account for #AskLisaAnn is flooded every day with guys begging to meet me and have sex with me. I can’t delete fast enough to find one or two good questions. So when you ask how has porn changed my life, I have one word: perception. Porn created a perception about me that even I can’t just can’t explain or change.

— Lisa Ann